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True understanding

Is something that has to be learned by a person in his own way and his own timing. The truth is something that not everyone will know . This is because of their own understanding and timing of things in their lives.

All things have a purpose even if we don’t understand why. Sometimes things that are truly horrible for you maybe also used to teach someone else something about themselves.

We as a person , we were created by timing and chance. If my mom and dad had conceived me a month later , I may have been a different person. My dna would be different even though my parents are the same. I could have been born as my brother or sister. Why am I me is the reason we are created at that specific moment in time. Maybe even two minutes later a different sperm would have been attached to my mom’s egg. This is chance that occurred and this is me!

Now we understand that our soul is placed into this body that was an earthly creation. Our soul is a universal part of the universe. Our body is created on earth and the soul is placed there by intention. My looks and my body are by chance Andy soul isn’t. We are born by chance but our soul is complete distinctly unique to our bodies. We are placed here to learn certain things . we leave after our lesson is finished. It’s like the turtle shedding its shell. The only problem is we can’t see the final result.

I am a product of cause and chance. I needed that special moment to become a person. My birthday is special more special than we can imagine.

You are special even though you may not feel like it. No worries no one else is you or will be or even think like you. How amazing is that?

Why things happen the way they do is dependent on many factors and different circumstances together that make this time now the way it is. Bad things and goods happen over time because of certain circumstances that arose in the past to make it now happen. It’s not your fault.. but it also may be, I don’t only you know …why you are here now at this point.

We all learn at different rates and we all learn different things according to our circumstances and our own experiences.

Some people just don’t want to learn and just focus on smaller details and make decisions in non specific ways. In life we need to be intentional and focus our way with the understanding of consequences of our actions.

Now there are two different types of people

The ones who learn from there circumstances

And second person who will never learn because of their lack of discernment.

True understanding is something that occurs when you use the knowledge you seek and experience and then reflect on it.

The second type will respond first to the situation and look into meaning of it. Usually a gut reaction.

A response can be a reflection of blaming someone for something, it can be hateful responses.

Time is place that happened in a certain hour or moment .

If you believe it will happen. If you don’t then it won’t . A great example that happens again and again in life is the fact that if you believe you do it you will .

so many great people who achieved a great feat was because of his or her belief system.

I’m stupid never got anywhere. I can’t do it . I’m not smart enough or I’m not that powerful and I don’t have the funds to be rich are all reasons for failure.

If you decide to make or sell something and if you

Really believe this item will make a huge difference, it will. You will sell this product with your whole being and without doubt doing it. The product will be a huge success.

But if you sit there and find many reasons why it could go wrong and not sell then it won’t be good even if it is a good product. You lack of faith will become your fault in success.

Positive thoughts and positive energy will bring about a positive change.

Negative thoughts shut down energy. While positive thoughts charge us with more energy.

If you want true understanding you need to search for it. This is a personal choice. I can show you the way but basically you need to believe it.

Your belief system is your way to making a difference in your own life.

If you came here today …… then you are ready to go . No second guessing just do it !

Tell yourself you can …….even if you don’t believe it and your brain will eventually start to think it can . If you keep saying I can do it , then your brain will believe it and eventually will happen.

No body ever accomplished anything by saying I can’t do it!

Feed your brain goods things like good thoughts just like good food to function properly your brain needs goood thoughts not bull crap and useless knowledge. You are what you think!

That’s your food for today!

Just remember to eat your vegetables

Frozen in time

Winter has a way of slowing us down

Our lives can be very difficult and sometimes life has a way of slowing us down.

Changes are expected and we experience many throughout our lifetime.

Sometimes there are road blocks. These freeze us and stop us in our tracks. They also may be out of our control. This is a time not to get overwhelmed and loose control. Staying positive and focused on the things we can do is the best way. Sometimes these road blocks gives us time to reflect on our lives. Maybe it’s a time that needs to change. A road block is way Mother Nature stops us and reminds us to remember and focus on something else.

A job loss can make appreciation for our family and make us remember why we work so hard. So spending more time with them may be just what they needed. Even if it may hard times. Things happen for a reason and life has a way of humbling us and teaching us lessons and opening up ourselves even if we were not ready.

Take a deep breath and just relax! This too shall pass! Focus on the things you can do and not the things you can’t.

Life’s journey

We grow learning about the world around us. As a child we are taught basic things. Our environment around us shapes our perception and beliefs. We believe the world is a good or a bad place by what we experience.

The truth about life is seen in schools. Why are children so mean and some nice ? The behaviors of children from a young is a reflection of what the future will hold. Children react to there environment because of things done on to them. Bullying is a behavioral response because of a home environment. Either abuse or a very stressful situation for the child. His response is a response from his parents. We are also taught way to behave and that should start from birth until we graduate school. Some parents are not available because of work and life circumstances. This puts a child in danger for future situations that are not favorable. Children raised alone or with a nanny have issues. Other children can raised without love and affection and mental support. These children also have issues. Fathers are often more likely to be non available to kids more often because of their situation. It’s very hard to to come home after a stressful day and deal with whining children and everything that goes with kids. Mother on the other hand have had a hard day and no one fully understands how much stress they have either. So this is one of the most difficult things parents face. The second issue is understanding the use of their resources and funds. She or he doesn’t understand me so they vent at work and it usually leads to an affair. It can but not always. But the one thing it always leads to is BAD advice.

Never listen to advice from someone who doesn’t live in your world! No one will ever understand exactly the dynamics of your relationship and situation unless they are there living it with you.

Parents learn bad habits and behaviors from watching their own parents argue. We all seem to forget that we incorporate our behavior from watching our parents. We as adults need to learn how to be more conscious of our behavior before we react. You don’t want repeat mistakes our parents did.

We need to see them and learn from them.

Just remember when you get divorced you married the us courts and now they own your life forever basically. They will control money taxes homes and businesses. They are not your friends. They also have their own interests. The judge gets paid for you being there!

So many mistakes are made by trusting people. We need to learn how to trust ourselves and our own instincts. If it doesn’t feel right don’t ever do it. No matter what the cost is! You gut feeling are yours best weapon against the world. We all have them.

Now that I am hitting the age of older years, I see those mistakes and I have time to understand why and how every thing happens. I understand that life isn’t always your fault. People around influence and shape your life! For example your boss has no reason to fire you but he does out of the blue. This changes your life instantly. Someone dies in the family this also can change everything especially if it’s not expected. Life happens and we can’t always predict or be prepared for what’s coming.

Don’t be so hard on yourself and blame yourself.

Sometimes we listen and make decisions based on on what we believe to be true. We then find out later in life that there was another way. It was our situation that made us make that decision. And perhaps if we went back in time with the knowledge of that time we would do exactly the same thing. We can’t change the past. We can understand it and just move forward and make adjustments to our future with the knowledge that was acquired by the past circumstances. This is a huge step towards recovery.

People truth be told aren’t always nice and honest. We can see that from our childhood experiences with other children. This behavior is the true definition of human nature. Just remember that. That’s why the world is the way it is. We all have a choice to behave and be honest and nice. Some people don’t deserve what they experience! This is a harsh reality.

Just think how we glorify and make important the harder crimes of the world and make movies about it. But the noble ones who really try to make a difference . We get no movies and no press. It’s not that important and it’s seems boring to be good. The bad boy seems more interesting and exciting. It’s just human nature. Idk ?

Then when you hit old age you start to understand that you need to please anyone except yourself and you are important! You matter. Even if no one else can see it. Live for your self and enjoy the rest of life for you. This is retirement. No more caring about family and friends. This is time for you to begin to be like you were at 21 when life was at your hands it seemed like a world of possibilities and opportunities.

Hopefully by this time you did take good care of of yourself and stayed healthy enough to enjoy some rest and relax and find the world a new place again to discover and be free to see tomorrow maybe with a new partner and new way of thinking about life. The world is constantly changing and so are we. We need to become adaptable to life to establish a place to learn how to enjoy life instead of complaining about it. You worked hard and not everything happened the way you planned but just remember it’s time to rest and have a little fun now . Enjoy your retirement and learn to get hobbies and do things you always wanted to do.

The world will tell you you’re too old now but you still have the power and a chance to be you. Don’t let the world tell you no!

Life’s lessons# human nature # retires

Simple luxuries

Having an organized home is a simple and an over looked luxury.

We all live hectic life’s which makes an organized home important to being stress free.

The first thing to have is a calendar and a notebook. Writing down your schedule and keeping track of things.

Adding a to do list and writing down what needs to be done can bring you a better nights rest. This time you won’t forget or have to go over it in your mind .

Having three kids I know how crazy it can get.

The most terrifying area in the home is the laundry area. For some reason we just can’t have a laundry free day? Idk why but it just doesn’t happen.

Working moms have a lot of stress and they tired so much faster than a stay at home mom. Stay at home moms can be overwhelmed by kids constantly crying and dealing with conflicts. Both are hard. I remember those days telling my husband how I want to sit in traffic instead of being home cooking with kids. Having to entertain young babies and then having older children doing homework with them and driving kids all over to sports and after school’s program s then cooking. . Finding time to go to the gym and shopping for food can bring the days ending quicker and I never had enough time in the day.

A mother has to have her self time . Having kids in school was down time for mom even if they were working around the home.

The thing that saved me was being organized!

I had an area for breakfast and cereal was right in a spot where coffee and tea was. I had a tea draw and I had a special baking cabinet.

I delighted certain days for certain work jobs. my week was a schedule that was written down and gone over . If I didn’t finish something on the list it would be added to the next day. Some weeks were harder than others.

I was lucky to have tall large cabinets in the kitchen where I stored paper and pencil for school supplies and crafts. Count yourself lucky if you have a laundry area.

An office table with a computer that kept all my bills and the mail. This truthfully was a hard area to keep clean. Mail was a big problem in my house. Otherwise I was pretty organized.

The next problem area was the mom’s closet I didn’t have enough space so I used the hallway closet. A big dream of mine was to have a walk in closet.

We all have our own ideas for perfect homes. We can’t all have everything and if you can afford it not even the best home home will have exactly what you want in it. There is no perfect home. You have to work around it and find a way to make it work. There will always be something you don’t like in a home. So we make small changes to suit own needs.

The key is functionality and controlling clutter. Finding a place to store contents and keeping them in that area . Being consistent in putting things back is a must. A place for everything and putting things back in place.

There was saying” if it doesn’t fit or have a place to store it ,don’t buy it “.

Putting away summer clothing in winter with plastic tubes and changing them out for the season is good if you have storage issues.

The most over looked thing is : washing linens!

The key to better sleep is washing your sheets frequently. This keeps bacteria away from your body and those dust mites that live on our bodies.

No caffeine after 4 pm. And writing thing down so I could have a list in morning was a great improvement in my life. A timer on the coffee coming out of the shower before anyone got up and sipping some coffee 20 minutes before anyone got up was the best start of the day! This is how I survived as mother of 3.

Just remember your husband has no idea what goes on in your life. So be nice!

Life

Life is a process . We are born and learn as we grow into an adult. The learning doesn’t stop there . It’s a life long journey . So many people get stuck at some point. It has to do with the situation or environment we live in. We learn certain concepts and behaviors that we identify aspects of our life we just acknowledge as facts. They may not be facts but they are familiar and we see them associated them to be true.

As we grow up we see our parents and extended family and incorporate them into our understanding and our concepts. These concepts may be s skewed. We were taught to believe things and we learned our ways from our parents. How we eat , what we eat. And Our family tradition s and beliefs. But as an adult we come to the realization that not everything we were taught was right.

We can learn once we leave the nest. Our eyes open up to different realities. We gain insight into our surroundings that are different. Hopefully you will gained understanding and incorporate this knowledge into your life. Neighborhoods and communities all play a role. So learning to leave and experience new places and things we gather a better understanding of the world.

This means we meet new people and get to see things and cultures and different beliefs behaviors and our own beliefs will become evolved and our learning will be evolving.

Then we have the experience of growing and learning that we age. Every age has a new story and a new meaning. Time shapes us and our life experiences changes us. Sometimes it’s a good thing and others time it may be a bad thing. But know the choices aren’t always yours. Destiny has a part of life that we can’t control. We deliberately choose to sabotage our lives or we can choose to change it a bit.

We are a product of our universe unique to our own world. Every one has a story .

Sometimes we have to learn from our failures and mistakes. This in time will make us better and stronger for our future. Everyone around you won’t experience or understand your life the exact way you see it. We need to learn how to become an observer from stepping out of the box of you. This how we can actually see what is going on . The truth and the knowing we can uncover by stepping away a looking at our situation from afar. This creates a better understanding so we can grow. Leaving the blame game and the circumstances at bay.

Life has a way of humbling us in ways we don’t understand or appreciate. Death , divorce and time all has a way to teach us even if we don’t want to learn. Understand some of us are forced into situations and experiences and we have to learn things that are hard. Life isn’t easy even if you have all the money in the world. Hurts and harm happens to everyone at some stage in life. A stupid decision can change your life and you could lose it all. A fatal accident can impact us and others. Other people can change our course just by being near us. Example being in the wrong place at the wrong time.

Attraction has a lot to do with this and so does a limited belief system. Negative emotions bring about negative situations. Being positive change this even in bad circumstances. We need to look at things and find the good in the situation even if it’s very bad. It can always be worse so think of positive things. The worse thing is death. So if you are not dead you still have a chance to recover from it.

An understanding of life can create a new sense of understanding. If we interpret the laws of Karma we can then understand how life works whether or not we believe in God or not. We need to see the laws of nature. The world has a certain kind of structure that’s what makes it so hard for us to understand. Unfortunately not everyone understands these concepts. The world has poles the north and the South Pole. These have an enormous effect on in our life . Energy and force and the earths wellbeing is all influenced by our polarization and how attraction and repelling can affect us. That’s Karma in a nut shell. It’s a real thing.

For example if we are going through a hard time we attract others who are having a hard time. If we experience positive things we attract positive people. Under for this to really work in our lives we need to separate ourselves from negativity and people who don’t necessarily make you feel good about yourself. Sometime we need to just be alone. Being alone isn’t a bad thing. It’s time of rest. Resting from all the bull shit and the people who try to convince you or sway you into doing something you don’t plan to do or even want to do.

In order to really be who you are meant to be we need to be alone and quiet. Away from influences even television can have an impact on our understanding.

As we age we have become to increasingly dependent on our own knowledge and experience. This creates a small circle of friends and family.

Sometimes people at our employment Juan also impact our feelings.

Staying:

Cordial and Keeping conversation about work and not incorporating our personal business and experiences.

We don’t need other peoples opinions and interpretations and influences . We are adults and we know the true underlying causes and consequences for our own lives. No one needs to know your personal business.

If we work in a hostile environment we should look for a new job. Work should be a time to be involved and to have a time to focus on working while not thinking about our own lives. It a break from our place of life. Which maybe good thing. We won’t dwell on what’s going on or who died or those sad experiences that we can hold on to. It’s a time to be separated from our world and just work.

At the end of our years we all seem to be alone . This is a time of reflection and a time to learn about the choices we made. Getting older should be a time to gain understanding and ask for forgiveness for the past. Learning is never ending. Even at the time of death we still are learning. Maybe even after our death we are still learning. Then we can be silenced and not interfere on the world that was created by your influence. We can see how our lives shaped others lives . And then see our mistakes . Maybe if we get a chance we can live again to correct ourselves and further learn the real meaning of life.

So basically in summary we should learn to separate ourselves from our environment so we can attract the influencers we need and not the ones we don’t want. Time spent alone is a time of reflection and self learning. Take the time to learn about yourself is key to becoming a more successful person and a better version of yourself.

Understanding your life is necessary for the development of your peace of mind.

The limitations and the choices and influences and the knowledge that was learned brings an understanding that only you can interpret and this is for your benefit and not others. Learn about yourself life is for your growth and we are born into this world to learn and understand. The world is a place of choices and experiences that are not necessarily good but everything is a choice and people don’t make the right choices and that’s why we have conflict and trials. So take a deep breath and get a note book and take some note and jot down everything from the time of birth to your time now and you will be able to see those things that you don’t before and you will learn how situations influence and interacted on your life. It’s worth the time to be intentional and evaluate yourself by yourself with nothing and no one to comment about it.

Then you can reflect and learn how to change your life or just basically understand why and how you got to where you are now. That’s called learning!

Just remember that we are our worst critic and we need to just let go and understand that life happens and we need to forgive ourselves for the lack of knowledge or the inability of action that wasn’t taken. Loving yourself is stepping back and letting it go . Make new choices and know that as long as you are alive you can bring about a new positive attitude towards your future.